YOU Can Change the World !!
Hi Everyone!! My name is Sandra & I'd like to welcome you to Spread Kindness! Please look around, & then join me in spreading kindness to make our world a better place!! Every week, I try to add a new quote and story below. If you have any suggestions on ways to improve my site or other ways to spread kindness, please leave them in my guestbook.
Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.
~ Scott Adams
How To Use The Power Of Love -
Using & Sending Love
The idea is simple...
It all starts with an envelope containing one dollar and a
letter about our mission. That envelope is given to a
stranger, who is instructed to follow these 4 simple steps:
The idea is that eventually, the envelope will find its way into
the hands of someone who does need it, whilst having been
added to by those along the way who might not have. The
eventual recipient is blessed with the fruit of others'
generosity, and those who have passed it along and added to
it have shared in the immense joy that only giving. More
importantly, all those that this project touches will forever be
changed, and their faith in human kindness will be
strengthened and restored. We are 100% aware of the fact
that this idea is not ours... It is an ancient principle, but, as
we are people of action, we simply wanted to help promote
the idea of giving!
We are always looking for volunteers, and those who wish to
support a cause that finds its roots in a desire for a better
world, inspired by the selfless acts of others.
We're confident that you'll find that giving of yourself leads to
an unparalleled happiness.
Sometimes we try so hard to find the “right” gift that we overlook simpler ideas that might be just as meaningful. Or, we hold back on gifting others, thinking that there needs to be a special reason for giving. I encourage you to give freely and often, remembering that giving is one activity that benefits the person on each end of the exchange. Below are ten gifts I believe are appropriate for any ordinary day and every special occasion. Plus, they are gifts that anyone can give because they require nothing but a willingness to be generous.
1. Time - Sharing your time is one of the greatest gifts you can give. Whether you offer ten minutes of story time to a child, a lunch date to a friend, or an afternoon away from chores to your spouse, you’re offering yourself and building a relationship at the same time.
2. Honest Acknowledgement - I hear very few people say that they receive too many compliments or too much praise. We all thrive when we get positive feedback and genuine appreciation for who we are or what we do. Start noticing the strengths, assets, and positive features of others and establish a new trend of personally acknowledging others for what you see.
3. Forgiveness - Forgiveness is a tremendously powerful gift. When we forgive others, we stop punishing them for their real or imagined act (whether we’ve been overt or clandestine in our retaliation). We give them our permission to let go of guilt or shame that they may be feeling over what they did. Forgiveness also has the benefit of freeing us from re-experiencing the hurt or anguish of the past incident.
4. Love - When we let down our defenses, stop judging others, and see them as another unique, holy, and precious human being, we give them a great gift. Openly sharing our love with others can help heal old wounds, build bridges, and even help someone in a challenging spot in life to move to a new place of confidence or self-assurance.
5. Undivided Attention - Even when we offer our time, our minds can be elsewhere, distracted from the person or experience at hand. Let yourself be with another person, setting aside other activities, thoughts, or agendas until you’ve fulfilled your purpose for the encounter. People notice when you’re 100% present and when you’re not, so give them all of you.
6. Courtesy - We often are so busy or so absorbed in our life’s dramas that we forget there are other people around us. Give yourself a breather and offer courtesy to the people you encounter each day. Simple acts of opening doors, holding an elevator, sharing a cab ride, picking up your neighbor’s newspaper and dropping it at their door, or letting a car ease in front of you during rush hour all let someone else know you care. (Even if they don’t thank you for your kindness it likely registers somewhere inside them.)
7. Surprise - This gift allows you to be really creative. Do you want to drop a postcard to your sister saying you love her? How about sending a floral bouquet to your husband (yes, he’ll be surprised)? Maybe you choose to offer to babysit your single co-worker’s son so she can enjoy an evening out with friends. Such gifts can have the most impact on an ordinary day because then the recipient will be totally unsuspecting.
8. Gratitude - Giving the gift of gratitude allows you to single someone out and let them know you paid attention to what they did. Like honest acknowledgements, a sincerely offered “thank you” is an uncommon treat. Whether you choose to speak or write your gratitude, this is a gift that goes right to the heart.
9. Smile - In the modern world, we often see too few smiling, genuinely happy faces. Reverse this trend by wearing a smile as part of your everyday wardrobe. This countenance conveys warmth, welcome, and friendliness, making it easy for those you’re smiling at to feel “seen.” Give this gift that sends the message, “I’m glad you’re here.
10. Silent Prayer - We could all use extra prayers and blessings in our lives. Even if it’s not consciously known, another person can be blessed when you offer the energetic gift of prayer. Whether or not you know a person’s situation or their religion, you can ask for divine assistance or attention. A simple prayer you might offer: “God/Allah/Great Spirit I ask for you to bless this person and attend to any needs they may have in their life. Thank you.”
10 Ways To Create Kindness
Kindness, as well as being a quality of the heart, is a skill. It deepens as we learn to pay attention to ourselves and one another with awareness. When we step out of our comfort zones and experiment with speaking to one another, listening to one another, and caring for one another in a different way, kindness grows. The fruits of greater kindness are revealed in our minds, in our lives, and in our communities. Here are 10 ways to increase your kindness quotient.
1. Kindness Is a Strength
It is all too easy to consider kindness a secondary virtue, the one we reach for only as a last resort. But if we look at the strength of kindness--the way it reminds us of a sense of inner abundance, the way it helps us feel connected to others instead of isolated and apart--we can appreciate kindness as the force it is. Kindness isn’t an ally of foolishness or gullibility, but rather an ally of wisdom and courage.
2. Look for the Good in Yourself
All too often we tend to focus on, or even fixate on, the mistakes we’ve made, the times we didn’t speak out because we were too timid, the times we spoke out brusquely or clumsily, and all of our regrets. Looking for the good within isn’t a way to deny our difficulties or problems. Instead, it's a way to broaden our outlook to make it more truthful and rid it of self-criticism. This is a foundation for kindness to ourselves.
3. Remember What We Share
If we look deeply into any kind of behavior, we will see an urge to feel a part of something greater than our own limited sense of self, a desire to feel at home in this body and mind. This urge toward happiness is often made twisted and distorted by ignorance, not knowing where happiness is actually to be found, and so we do damaging things. But we all share the desire to be happy, a vulnerability to change, to loss, and to fragility. Remembering what we share inspires us toward kindness.
4. Cultivate Gratitude
Rather than taking inspiring voices for granted, or overlooking the helping hands that might have picked us up when we have fallen, we can make an effort to hold them in our hearts. Sometimes even a small act of kindness on someone’s part makes an essential difference for us. Cultivating gratitude is a way of honoring these people, and also a way of lifting our spirits and reminding us of the power of good-heartedness.
5. Practice Generosity
The Buddha said, “If you knew as I did, the power of giving, you would not let a single day pass without sharing.” We all have something to give: it may be material, large or small, it may be a smile, or an attentive conversation in the elevator. Perhaps you let a stranger get ahead of you on line, or give a co-worker a small gift, or write a late-night note of appreciation. Any act of generosity--material or of the spirit, small or large--is a meaningful expression of kindness.
6. Meditate on Kindness
Each day we can take the time to quietly hold others in our hearts and wish them well. Any particular day it might include someone who has been helpful or inspiring to us, someone we know who is feeling alone or afraid, someone who is experiencing triumph and joy, or someone we are about to meet with some trepidation. We might, depending on the circumstances of our lives, particularly include children or animals along with --- people. Taking just 10 minutes a day to reflect in this way is a powerful path to transformation.
7. Listen to Others Carefully
Often we have conversations where we are only partially paying attention, while at the same time we are thinking about the next email we need to send, or what we forgot to mention to the last person we spoke to. We also commonly make many assumptions about the person we are talking to and no longer fully listen; in effect, we have taken their file, put it in a folder, and filed it away in a drawer. “Oh, they are boring. Their comments in the past were unimpressive.” It is a powerful gesture of kindness, and one that leaves us open to many surprises, to really listen.
8. Include Those Who Seem Left Out
In a conversation with a group of people, there may be those too shy to speak out unasked. In a room full of partygoers, there may be some who hardly know anyone there. We can probably all remember that awful feeling of wanting to feel a part of a group but instead feeling left out and unseen. At one event I arrived earlier than my friends and ended up approaching a woman standing alone and seeming ill at ease. (In fact she had been dismayed at not knowing anyone there.) We ended up having many common interests and connections--and spent a delightful time together.
9. Refrain from Speaking Ill
A friend told me about a time he resolved not to talk about any third person; if he had something to say about someone, he would say it to them instead. If you feel tempted to put someone down, assume knowledge of their bad motives, or generally prove their inferiority, take a breath. Even though we might feel a rush of power in saying those words, they can easily come back to haunt us. We ultimately get no benefit from dividing people and sowing seeds of dissension and dislike. There are ways to talk honestly about wrong behavior without derision or condemnation for the person acting.
10. Empathize with Others
It is always useful to put ourselves in someone else’s place. As the old proverb suggests, “Walk a mile in another person’s shoes before you pass judgment.’” Even if we are going to take strong action to try to change someone’s behavior, a sense of empathy and understanding for them won’t weaken us. If anything, that element of kindness will broaden our avenues of response to a problem, and engender greater creativity as we seek options to ease suffering all around.
Sharon Salzberg is a best-selling author and the co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society and the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies.
Her most recent book, "The Kindness Handbook: A Practical Companion," was published in 2008. FIND THIS BOOK AT: www.inspirationline.com/books.htm
AM I BEING KIND?
LivingKindness is practicing kindness each day toward yourself, others, & the earth.
D.O.K. - Drops of Kindness - Start Your Own Kindness Revolution!
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52 Ways to Change the World!
Each episode of this podcast features a quick and easy way to make a difference and change the world! From bowling to birthday parties to just searching the web, charity and community service can become a fun, easy, and rewarding part of your everyday life! Listen for a few minutes every week and help make the world a better place!
There are many websites which donate to charity every time
you simply press a button! It's quick, easy, and free to click
on these sites every day.
Here are the click-to-donate sites featured on this episode:
Weekly Act of Kindness Suggestion
Below you will find an idea for a possible Act of Kindness
that could truly make a difference in someone's life as well as
in our world. Remember, kindness is contagious!
Suggested Act of Kindness
for the week beginning August 30, 2010
very prosperous week.
"Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible."
~ Dalai Lama
Love and blessings, Veronica
with everything all in one place...
Including our 33 Stories of Kindness.
On April 21, 2009, President Obama signed the Edward M. Kennedy Serve America Act, a bold expansion of opportunities for all Americans to serve their communities and our country. During a time of almost unprecedented challenges it is critical that we all work together, the government alone cannot fix everything. Working together in a sustained, collaborative effort, we can harness our greatest resource, our people, and change the course of history.
This website is a new portal for you and all Americans to find your own ways to serve in your own communities. Just choose your keyword - "education," "environment," or whatever interests you - and type in your zip code to see what opportunities our partner organizations have in your area. Americans are putting their own country back on the right track, be a part of it.
You can send cards as well as items such as food and toiletries requested by the troops to any of the following organizations:
"Does Your Email Do Double-Duty?
I just came across Reply For All, a free service that lets you raise money for different worthy causes by adding a custom signature to your email. When people click on the link in your signature, the sponsors donate to the cause you support. (For instance, you can provide access to clean water for 12 people by having a Reply For All signature on your email for a month.) Pretty cool, and a totally easy way to help make a difference."
The above was in the Do Good Group found here:
Each month in our Do Good section of the Ladies' Home Journal, we're not just giving you amazing stories -- we're also challenging you to take action! After you read The Gift of Sight (about volunteers and the Lion's Club helping people in Nicaragua get glasses), we know you'll be inspired to donate your own used -- but useable -- eyeglasses. Don't wear glasses? Collect pairs from friends and family members.
Get inspired, find volunteering opportunities, or join one of our Do Good Groups to meet other women committed to making a difference in their communities.
The groundhog has predicted six more weeks of winter! Use
your craftiness to knit, crochet, or sew items to keep those in
need warm during the cold weeks ahead.
Here are the websites of the organizations featured on this
Everybody's got a little good in them. It might be something we're already doing and we just don't realize it. When you said hi to that stranger the other day, when you told the cashier to keep the change, or when you invited that old friend over for dinner. All good deeds are important.
Why are these so important? There are plenty of things wrong with the world, but the one thing we've always got control of how we act. By doing these good little things, we can remind ourselves what makes us people, neighbors, and friends. Kindness is a gift we can share that never runs out.
Let's celebrate it. Let's tell people how important these little things are. Let's share the good sides of us. Let's share the good side of you.
BK2HK is Be Kind To Humankind. Be Kind To Humankind is a celebration of kind people and the kind acts that they perform all across the globe.
Kindness Suggestions for every day of the week:
Show them that you care
Sacrifice Our Wants For Others Needs Sunday
Motorist Consideration Monday
Spread kindness, one heart at a time
Offer a helping hand
Treat others well
Forgive Your Foe Friday
Say something nice
Speak Kind Words Saturday
Kindness Idea: Seven Greatest Gifts
Gift of service: donate to a cause, as a holiday gift for your best friend.
Gift of affection: be generous with hugs, kisses and pats on the back.
Gift of laughter: clip cartoons, share funny stories.
Gift of a written note: send a 'thank you' note, write a letter to an old friend.
Gift of a compliment: a simple 'you look great today', a sincere 'thank you for a wonderful meal'.
Gift of listening: no interrupting, no daydreaming, no responding, just listening.
Gift of solitude: spend some time in silence, help others spend some time in silence.
Want to do something kind, but just can't think of what to do? You're in luck! Below are lots ideas taken from our weekly newsletter and links to even more ideas. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask our kindness experts.
10 TIPS TO FOSTER HEART-HEALING
1. Learn to love yourself. This may take time and practice. As I tell my clients who are clearly struggling with self-love (and, who isn’t?) write down 10 things you love about yourself every day. Be creative. Here, I’ll help you get started, “I love how I try to improve my health by reading health blogs.” Now, you only have nine left for today.
2. Let down your guard. Protecting your heart from pain only serves to build walls around it and makes it more vulnerable to heart disease. Reach out to others.
3. Forgive yourself. Aah, easier said than done. It takes practice. Reciting affirmations like “I forgive myself” may help.
4. Forgive others. Holding onto grudges only serves to hurt you. Write out your grievances and destroy the paper. Alternatively, paint, sculpt, or draw to express your feelings so you can be free from them.
5. Nurture a spiritual practice. Recognizing yourself as a spiritual being having a human existence can help you to feel more connected to the planet and other people. It can also help you to establish greater meaning in your life.
6. Find things to appreciate in your life. I once met a wonderful woman at class who told me afterward that she wrote daily in her “gratitude journal” about all the things she was grateful for. She shared with me that day’s entry about being grateful for meeting me. Not only was she approaching her own life with a positive attitude, but she also put a smile on my face too.
7. Stop to smell the roses. Life can be harried. Slow down. Yes, it really is possible. It usually requires effort but it can be done. I have so many clients who make their work their first priority…and it shows in their health. Flip things around, put your health up top and make time to enjoy the simple things in life like flowers, friendships, beautiful music, or a bubble bath.
8. Do something nice to nurture your relationships. Call someone just to say “I love you,” take some homemade soup to someone who hasn’t been feeling well, invite a neighbor over for an herbal tea, give an unexpected card…the list of possibilities is endless.
9. Let people know how you feel about them. Sure, your husband, wife, child, parents or friends may know you care, but I’m sure hearing about it would do wonders. Muster some courage and express your loving thoughts and feelings. It gets easier with time.
10. Love your body by treating it well. Unhealthy habits and attitudes demonstrate a lack of love for oneself. If you love your body feed it food that nourishes it, exercise, practice meditation or deep breathing. If you don’t love your body or aren’t sure if you do, return to Tip Number 1.
Michelle Schoffro Cook, DNM, DAc, CNC
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